Monday, November 26, 2007

ONE AREA OF CONCERN FOR SINGLES IN THE CHURCH

Hi y'all. Sorry I've been neglecting my blog.

I'm kind of angry right now. I don't know if that's good for me to be writing angry, because I may be too honest. But that could be good as long as I'm tactful. So I'll write it and then see if I'll post it.

One thing that singles have to deal with (and I am one of them), is getting the feeling that we are dangers to the marriage of others simply because we are single. Some women shun us subtly because we are a threat to their marraige. Some men shun us not so subtly because their wives feel we are a threat to their marriage. Its hard to describe, because like I said, its not direct statements like "Sorry I can't continue to have this conversation with you because you are single and might threaten my marriage." But a lot of men won't ride in the car with me in order "to protect their marriage." I feel like a prostitute when they tell me that. Every time. It never fails. Its like a slap in the face when they say it no matter how confident I am in the fact that I am the Lord's at that moment. Just the avoidance of me by the husbands of others kind of sends that message sometimes. I think this is an area we in the church need to think about and pray about. Is there some way we can do this better? I know that we can't play with sin, but I have no attraction to any of the married men I know. Is there some way that we can relate and I don't have to feel like a prostitute just because maybe the root of the issue is that that man needs to love his wife better so that she is more secure??